- Do you find yourself making excuses, lying, or covering up for your addict?
- Do you have reason not to trust the addict in your life?
- Is it becoming difficult for you to believe his/her explanations?
- Do you lie awake worrying about the addict in your life?
- Is this person missing school often without your knowledge?
- Is this person missing work and the bills piling up?
- Are the savings mysteriously missing?
- Are the unanswered questions causing hostility and undermining your relationship or marriage?
- Are you asking yourself. “What’s Wrong?” and “Is it my fault?”
- Are your suspicions turning you into a detective and are you afraid of what you might find out?
- Are normal family disagreements becoming hostile and violent?
- Are you cancelling social functions with vague excuses?
- Are you becoming increasingly reluctant to invite friends to your home?
- Is concern for your spouse, child or friend causing you headaches, a knotty stomach and extreme anxiety?
- Is your spouse, child or friend easily irritated by minute matters? Does your whole life seem a nightmare?
- Are you unable to discuss the situation with friends or relatives because of the embarrassment?
- Are your attempts at control frustrating?
- Do you over compensate and try not to make waves?
- Do you keep trying to make things better and nothing helps?
- Is the lifestyle of this person changing? Do you ever think they may be using drugs?
If you have answered YES to four or more of these questions, NAR-ANON may be able to give you the answers you are looking for.